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Post by mr.banker on Wed Mar 25, 2009 10:33 am

Listen, Listen, Listen...

In
our time-starved society, attentiveness and listening skills seem to
have fallen to the wayside. In order to make those with whom you
communicate feel
important, brush up on your listening skills. Make
sure to give the speaker your undivided attention: regardless of how
great you are at multi-tasking,
treating an individual as a "task"
is not a good idea. Eye-contact, nodding in agreement, asking leading
questions and using your face to provide feedback
also contribute to a positive communication experience that will foster the growth of the relationship

Resolutions
Resolve to be tender with the young,
Compassionate with the sick and the aged,
Sympathetic of the poor,
Tolerant of the weak and the wrong...........at sometime in your life you will have been all of these things.

One Choice, two options
We can always choose how we react to things that occur in our lives. We can be better, or we can be bitter. Try to be better!

Listening Effectively
To
improve your communications skills you must first improve your
listening skills. Effective listening is all about eye contact, because
people listen with
their eyes as well as with their ears. Also,
learning to be silent in your mind and on your tongue are both
important listening traits. Truly listening to another
is showing that other person that you care and what they have to say is important.



The Golden Rule
Remember:
People may not remember what you did for them, or even what you said,
but they will always remember how you made them feel.

Jealousy
As
you are growing up try not to suppress any feelings of envy that you
have. If suppressed, these feelings of jealousy will continue to grow
within you.
Envying what others possess is a waste of your time.
Jealousy is a destructive emotion that will only grow stronger unless
you do something about it. Deal
with the emotion and stop it before it begins to fester.

Create Electricity
When
talking to others, lean forward to show the other person that you are
interested in what they have to say. Sitting up or with a straight back
gives off
the impression that you are not interested in what they
are saying. Next time try leaning forward and you will be amazed at the
electricity it will create.

Friendship

Friendship
is a wealth, so, it should be utilized properly. It needs a commitment.
To keep it fresh and sustainable we have to take some responsibilities.
Ifanybody considers friendship as an opportunity, it will die within a
short time.

Criticize
Before
you criticize someone walk a mile in their shoes, so that when you
criticize them you will be a mile away and you'll have their shoes.



Silence is Golden
Speech needs company; silence needs solitude
Speech wants to conquer others; silence helps conquer oneself
Speech demands respect, silence commands it
Speech is self -expression; silence is self-experience
Speech is mind bound, silence is soul bound
Speech asserts ego; silence effaces it
Speech dissipates ego; silence conserves it
Speech is human; silence is divine
Speech receives appreciation; silence receives adoration
Great works are inspired by speech but written in silence
Life is a flower; silence is its fragrance
We surround ourselves with noise, because we are uncomfortable with silence.
We fill our lives with distractions, because we are reluctant to confront

Body Language

Would
you like to be able to understand what a friend or loved one is trying
to tell you? Try mimicking their body language. It might seem odd, but
studies say
that if you adopt a similar posture or use similar
gestures as the person your talking to, you are more likely to be
attuned to their emotions. This
phenomenon is known as physiological synchrony.

Attitude
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.

When Talking to Children

When speaking to your children, say what you mean, mean what you say, but don't be mean when you say it.


Keep It Cool

Tact is the ability to build a fire under people without making their blood boil.

Don't be fettered

It's fine to think before you say or do, but don't let it become an obsession. Spontaneity can lead to exciting results.

Love and Hate

It
can take a lifetime to make a friend whereas; it only takes a second to
make an enemy. Be careful of what you say and do around others.

Leadership

Leadership
may get you to the top, however, everyone starts their way from the
bottom, so remember the people at the bottom, give them credit when due!


Personality
Always be a first-rate version of your self
instead of a second-rate version of somebody else

Orginial Self

Try to see what no one else has seen. Try to think what no one else has thought.
Then you will be what no one else has been.

Hearing
When you listen to someone take the time to hear what is said and not said.
Never wait to talk. Process what was said based on its depth and then respond.

People Pleaser
"You can please all of the people some of the time,
You can please some of people all of the time, but you can
never please all of the people all of the time."

Bad day!
When someone is having a bad day, be silent,
sit close by and nuzzle them gently.

Patience
Patience is the ability to keep your motor idling, when you feel like stripping your gears.

Ungratfullness
An ungrateful man (woman) is like a hog eating apples under a tree- never looking up to see where they come from.

People Skills
When
a friend comes to you for advice be sure not to get so absorbed in it
that you actually solve one of your own problems with the advice you
offer to
them. Remember the results may have a devastating effect on their situation and with that, only you, reap the benefits.

Be an active listener

The
best tip anyone could give is to follow the golden rule. If you do
something to someone that does not feel right, it probably wasn't. I
don't think there are
a lot of bad people, but I do feel that
people today do not take the time to get in the habit of following the
rule. This leads to many different problems that
become bad habits.
Just get in the habit of following the golden rule and you will find
that issues you had before are not so bad now.

Getting what you want
Never take no for an answer from someone who doesn’t have the authority to say yes.

Problems without an answer
Problems
without solutions, sometimes have a way of solving themselves. Just put
them aside, in a neat stack, and let time help solve them for you.

INTSTINCTS
Don't be afraid to go with your instincts always remember if it feels good it can't be wrong.




Be An Encourager
A SPARK OF ENCOURAGEMENT
CAN REKINDLE WARMTH IN THE HEART!!!
The power in words can build up or tear down-
Create a big smile or produce a sad frown;
So in all your contacts with people each day,
Be sure to encourage in all that you say.

LIGHT THE LIGHT FOR OTHERS

When you see no light at the end of the tunnel, make one at your end for those that wish to enter from the other side.

Water tends to seek its own level.

People
tend to associate with and marry those who have similar personality
traits. A kind, honest, person tends to marry another nice person.
Whereas, an
evil, mean, person tends to marry another person of the
same, or a person that will allow them to be such. A party person that
likes to drink, gamble, or do
drugs, wants a partner that'll do the same. We, like water, seeks to rise to it's own level of comfort in life.

The Beauty of Life

The beauty of life is not how happy you are, but how happy others can be because of you.

Don't Be Offended

If another says something hurtful, it is wise to ignore it;
if the words were not intended to hurt,
our resentment will hurt the innocent;
if the words were intended to hurt,
our resentment will reward the guilty.

Careful with your words
You may not remember what you said to someone yesterday, but the one you said it to may remember it for a lifetime.

Being valued
Cause
others to believe that they are valued, and you will be sought. Cause
others to believe that they are of no value and you will be fought.
Cause neither belief to occur and you will be naught.




THE ECONOMICS OF THE MOUTH
The primary reasons that talk is cheap are because there is too much supply and too little demand.

THE VIRTUE OF STRENGTH
When
we are weak, we accuse and blame; growing stronger we become able to
forgive; once we are strong, we discover that there is nothing to
forgive.

Don't Be All Alone
When consideration ceases to be two-way deal, one may start playing solitaire.

Do you really cheat an honest person?
In
a world of common dis-honesty the issue of honesty is always addressed.
All will say they speak the truth. In fact in their closest
relationships are man lies. Big ones, small ones, white ones and
naturally the unspoken ones. Let sleeping dogs lie they say. What they
don't know won't hurt them. Etc.
Should there be a truly honorable
person in the web of deceit, it seems they are cheated of the decency
of truth. Still they hardly waver from their own truths.
This
indeed maintains a sense of soul the others lack. This causes either an
intense attraction or intense need to get away. Still honesty will
stand over all
attacks time and again. So do you really cheat an honest person? Or do you cheat yourself of untold potentia

WHEN RECEIVING CREDIT ISN'T NUMBER ONE

The easiest way to get one’s ideas accepted is to lay them softly before others to pick up and claim as their own.

Controlling Anger
“Powerful is not he who knocks the other down, indeed powerful is
he who controls himself in a fit of anger.”
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